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Hey! It’s my birthday month and I thought it would be nice to try something I’ve never done before. Many people post videos of x things they learned at x age, and I thought I’d do something similar. On my twenty-fourth birthday, I want to share with you 23 lessons & milestones that has marked my 23rd year on this earth.

  1. You’re not a bad person if you want to do something for yourself every once and a while. You really can’t please everyone, and being ‘selfish’ now and then is okay, healthy even. If you just bend to everyone’s will, you’ll just find yourself exhausted and very much unhappy. 😞
  2. Some people are just really hard to deal and work with. Maybe it’s in the workplace, maybe it’s at home or with friends. Time and time again, you’ll be faced with people who want to push their way of doing things, even when it’s not necessarily correct. When I faced this at my old job, I was told that this was just a part of corporate life, what with everyone trying to meet deadlines, but it definitely wasn’t something I expected. 😞
  3. Yeast is not that difficult to work with. I mean. . . it’s still pretty tricky. But I haven’t let that stop me from using it to try some new things in the kitchen. I’m definitely not an expert, and I haven’t been as successful as I want to be, but I haven’t made inedible things, and I’m learning still so yeah. 👍
  4. Decluttering is a great way to clear your mind as well as the space you’re in. There was a point where I, I didn’t do it alone but it was mostly my things, did a huge clear out of things I’ve more or less hoarded over the years. I let go of a lot of stuff, and I found that when the mess was a lot less, I was (at least a little bit) less stressed out. (I’ve also looked at photos of my space before and I cringed so hard) 😅
  5. You don’t have to do/spend a lot to put a smile on someone’s face. I sent my friend a care package of sorts a few months ago and she said it made her day. It was just some cookies I baked, a handwritten note letting her know I believed in her, and a Starbucks coupon for her late nights. I didn’t plan anything, didn’t wrap anything all special, but she said it made her smile and that made me really happy. 😊
  6. really like Korean BBQ. I tried it for the first time early this year and now I crave it every month or so. Probably not a good idea to go that regularly, but it’s just so good. 😅
  7. It’s okay to want to move on to another job opportunity. My former boss told me that you shouldn’t be afraid to say you want to resign, because sometimes that’s what’s needed for your growth. I didn’t expect her to say something like that, but I appreciated it very much. And with her words I was able to breathe a little lighter. 😊
  8. La Union is beautiful. 😍 That trip was my first self-planned beach trip, and I wrote about it here and here, if you wanted to check those out. One of the best parts is you don’t have to spend an arm and a leg for a trip there. It just takes strategic planning.
  9. Travel is such a beautiful and worthwhile thing.  I think this year had me going to the most places away from home. Some experiences with family, some with friends, but all very memorable. I definitely want to travel more (hopefully I can put something together locally or save enough to go to another country near by). 😍
  10. One’s opinion can change drastically based on a situation. That sentence seems really serious and deep, but for this particular case, it really isn’t. I’ve recently found myself ordering a lunch container that has a heating feature. I used to think these were weird useless things. . . and then I found myself in a work environment with no means to heat my food. Hopefully it works as its supposed to, and that I’ll have a way to have hot packed lunch even without a microwave. 😅
  11. Manille Calamansi and orange soda make a really good mix. It’s probably a weird combo, but it’s something I found I like to drink. Some backstory: I don’t drink very much in part because I think I might be at least a little allergic to it (not a joke, it’s in my family), but I’ve been trying to look for something I can drink more than a glass of. 1 shot of the vodka and half a can of orange soda does it for me. 😄
  12. I’ve found myself just listening to musical soundtracks a lot this past year. I’m pretty sure watching the shows themselves would be way more mesmerizing, but the soundtracks are pretty awesome in themselves too. Some current favorites include: Hamilton, Dear Evan Hansen, The Last 5 Years, A New Brain, and In the Heights. 👍
  13. It takes a whole lot to put yourself out there, but it isn’t impossible. In this last year, I was able to attend this event where I got to learn a lot from different bloggers in my country. I’m a long ways off from where they are, that’s for sure, but that only made what they all talked about more worthwhile and inspiring. 😊
  14. There really isn’t a problem with having a small number of close-knit friends. This is something I think I’ve known for a long time now, but every time I went on social media and saw my friends’ stories where they’re with so many people, I felt unwanted and alone–surely these groups matter more to them than one lowly me. Recently though, I haven’t gotten these feelings as much. Yes, I still feel replaced and unimportant sometimes, but deep within me I know that my constants are my constants. 😊
  15. It’s easier to push yourself to do things like work out when you’re not doing it alone. If you can’t convince yourself with your own motivation, a friend or two should be able to (or you’ll feel bad seeing them do what you wanted to). Hopefully, this means that I’ll be able to stick to a work out habit soon. 😄
  16. Have you ever heard someone say that before you get better, you get worse first? I think I have? But it’s never been as true to my life as it has been in the past year. Maybe it’s because I’ve made a lot of decisions lately that have had significant effects in my life, but yeah, I have noticed that before it gets good, it gets really, pretty bad. 😳
  17. It only takes a quick substitution (or two or a bunch) to help the earth even just a little bit. In the past year, I’ve found myself purchasing some reusable options for feminine products (menstrual cups and washable liners), makeup cleansing tools (makeup eraser, washable cotton rounds), and utensils (metal straw and a number of tumblers). I’m not saying I’m completely eco-friendly, but there are some things that I’ve decided didn’t make any sense to produce waste with. Baby steps, baby steps. 😄
  18. I still have a long way to go in terms of discipline with myself. I still need to be better with restraint when it comes to spending and eating, and need to be better at pushing myself to eat healthier (even just a little bit), exercise, and do things that are generally better for me. Again, baby steps. 😊
  19. I’ve found that something as simple as writing a few keywords representing my days is a good way to commemorate those simple memories. I find myself scrolling through my 2018 planner, pages filled with cup liners, wrappers, tags, tickets, photos, and reading the bottom of each day, the highlights, brings a smile to my face at the thought of the memories. 😄
  20. There’s still so many things to learn about in the world. I mean, this is a general phrase, and in the last year I have taken on a few things to learn, but I think moving forward, I want to try my hand at taking on more new things. Perhaps I could give sewing garments another shot, learn new recipes, push forward with the languages I’m studying, etc. I think it would be very productive and progressive. Fingers crossed. 😊
  21. Things take time. In the past year, I’ve been reminded time and time again that nothing comes instantly, especially things that mean the most. We can’t just jump into something and expect things to be a-ok instantly. It takes effort, persistence, and an immense amount of patience. Right now I have quite a number of things that need my patience. We push on. 😊
  22. It’s important to celebrate even just the little things. Sometimes, these are what help us keep moving forward. In the last month, I’ve gained a number of followers on social media and on here, and even if the numbers aren’t huge, they are a sign of progress, and that makes me happy. If you follow me already on social media or on here, from the bottom of my heart, thank you! And if you aren’t and just happened to drop by, thank you too! 😄
  23. As I grow older, I come more and more to terms with the fact that I’m worried about the future. When will I get married? When I have kids, how will I provide? When will I be able to own a place of my own? This is included in my highlights because these were more regular passers by in my mind this year. Hopefully soon, I’ll at least be able to start to plan something out. 😊

Twenty three years down, who knows how long to go. I’m moving forward with an idea of what I want to accomplish next, and a somewhat renewed energy to push further forward. My apologies for the length of this post, although I do hope you enjoyed reading. It was nice, and somewhat difficult, to look back and document my thoughts and memories, and I am thankful to you for sticking around! 😄

’til next time,



2 Comments Add yours

  1. ashlynkatexo says:

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    1. Ren says:

      Thank you! That mean’s so much! 😄 Sure, I’d love to! 😁

      Liked by 1 person

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